Today, I used wit instead of humor. It wasn't premeditated, although it was something only the other person and I would know. It wasn't funny, even though I meant it to be good natured-banter. Because of indulging in it, the good that I intended went unnoticed, unheard. The stab and twist broke the bridge I wanted to build. So I studied these words today and hopefully will be on purpose to NOT indulge. It took Craig to frame it - how other people saw and felt it from me, like a slash and then a comforting pat. Sometimes I'm trying to point out an incongruity or something absurd, draw a comparison and use it to ask; can you see it too? I had no idea that it felt aggressive to the other person! Seriously! Dumber than a box of rocks......although, when it is done to me, I hate it and feel terrible! It HURTS! I can be the victim, then the bully, and it goes on and on.....
I don't want anyone hurt with sarcasm or cryptic hurtful words. Lord, may I have an unlimited amount of 'redo' tickets? My heartfelt desire is that I can become proficient in tenderness, compassion, loving, understanding, empathy and encouragement- so that people will see Jesus in my eyes, hear Him through my words and feel Him through my affection. Tomorrow's a new day with no mistakes in it. Whew! Isn't the learning curve hard?
"You can't make gravy till you make gravy"
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