This has happened to me, maybe to you. I could never understand the dynamics until I read this!
Someone verbally, emotionally or physically abuses you-then they ridicule you for the instinctive shut down response that happens. "Looks like you're shriveling up".
Often, the abuser becomes the victim, turning the tables with, "you/they hate me". Instead of taking responsibility with, "I hurt you/them".
Leave. Run. Guard your heart better. Do.
I did. I do. I will.